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Ryan Anderson's Girlfriend Passes Away at 29

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Ryan Anderson's Girlfriend Passes Away at 29

Pretty sad news this morning with it being reportered that Gia Allemand, partner of Pelicans player Ryan Anderson has died as a result of injuries obtained in a suicide attempt.
Whether you like Ryan or not as a player, this is a pretty tragic circumstance for anyone. As a fan of Anderson I hope he can pull through this ok.
http://www.cbssports.com/nba/blog/eye-on-basketball/23151064/gia-alleman...


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Yes it's a tragic circumstance and it happens

I am sorry, NBA shouldn't have even posted that to their website, it's demoralizing to Anderson too. Now back to basketball. Let's not talk about someone's death, it really isn't necesarry.

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to comte, F u talkin about

to comte, F u talkin about bra? and i hope that anderson gets thru this and puts this grief and frustration towards basketball...hopefully this dosnt break him

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I saw this on yahoo earlier

I saw this on yahoo earlier today... Very sad news.

Your mental health is everything. My thoughts and prayers go out to her family and all of the people that knew/loved her.

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I lost my little brother to

I lost my little brother to the same thing a couple of years ago: attempted suicide, put on life support, and then taken off life support.

Hopefully Ryan is able to successfully continue his career and growth as a player. If not, I know how he probably feels right now. It's not easy, but he is talented and it would be sad if this hurt his career and dream job.

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I hope the US starts putting

I hope the US starts putting money in mental health. The Jovan Belcher thing was awful and there keeps being these horrific things. I have had suicidal thoughts a couple years ago, but never even came close to trying it and I can see how they can get to the point. I make sure to say hi to the guy in the corner and make sure that he is going good and he is fine. Most people arent honest when you ask them how they are doing, they just say good, People need to know it is ok to get help and that people are there for them, if you arent doing good say something. If you think someone could be having trouble then talk to them and guide them to help. Sorry I rambled on but I just feel strongly that things should change in this country about mental health.

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Agree completely get the tree

Agree completely get the tree at the root instead of trying to recklessly hack off branches

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"I hope the US starts putting

"I hope the US starts putting money in mental health."

I agree with you *INFINITY* percent.

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Wow that's horrible news. I

Wow that's horrible news. I read it yesterday on Yahoo! that she was hospitalized and was in critical condition and but they they didn't tell why she was injured but this is clear right now.

For sure there is a very sad strory in the background and I hope her family and Ryan come over this at some point. Always so sad when young people pass away like this. RIP

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Sad to hear, but I have no

Sad to hear, but I have no sympathies for suicide. There is never any reason to kill yourself, no matter how little or large the issues you're facing are. Often these reasons are in fact little, like a break-up for example.

Suicide is selfish; it's purposely disregarding your friends, family, and loved ones. If you have suicidal thoughts that's fine, but remember this does not only affect YOU, it affects EVERYONE who knows you. Communication is key, if you have a problem tell people, if you're embarassed tell a doctor, tell a stranger, call a suicide hotline. There is no point in keeping it to yourself, that only enhances the problem.

I wish the best for Ryan, and the girls family. They're the true victims here.

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Hey, now. Clinical

Hey, now. Clinical depression is a thing. Like, an uncontrollable illness that, yes, can be treated, but still is going to affect a person's rationality. Some people get so depressed (and it's a completely medical Issue) that they do have thoughts of suicide and you can't really fault them for it, and if they act on it, well, it's hard to say they would've gone through with it if they were completely ok mentally. To say that you have absolutely no sympathy for those who commit suicide? That's a little harsh, if you've never had clinical depression yourself.

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You are right, people are

You are right, people are selfish for not being there for that person and not noticing that something might be wrong. To me the blame starts and ends with all of us. Nobody deserves a life of misery. I have no respect for people who call people who committed suicide selfish. They are selfish for thinking someone else should live so they dont have to deal with them dying.

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Selfish? I don't know about

Selfish? I don't know about that. Now I agree with you about telling someone if you have thoughts of hurting yourself but suicide is a complicated issue and people do it for lots of different reasons. I know this is unrelated to this persons situation but think about the people just wasting away and dying slowly day by day from horrible painfull diseases like cancer. If someone in that situation were to commit suicide, would you consider it selfish? I wouldn't. There's nothing worse then watching a loved one waste away from a painfull disease. It's a terrible situation for all parties involved. I wouldn't blame someone dying of terminal cancer who decided they preferred to die on their own terms. I don't know who this girl was or why she did it but to them they were suffering and had their reasons. For this, no one is too blame. It's just how life is sometimes, sh!tty. All you can do now is move on and remember them how they were

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I'm sorry

I didn't mean for it to sound rude it just really threw me off. I'm not insensitive I really do feel for him. I hope he plays well and works through his emotional scars. I'm contrite for what I said, it's the juist the whole demise on news which sort of throws me off.

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@CynthiaVERY harsh comment.

@Cynthia

VERY harsh comment.

You do know that a lot of people have mental illnesses/disorders that give them suicidal thoughts? Like it's really a battle for them every single day even with medication. There are people who are going to counseling, therapy, taking meds, etc and life still is a struggle for them due to the disorder or illness (chemical imbalances in their brain) that they may have. It's not just a person who had a breakup and then they decided life just isn't worth living. There are tons of people out there that are literally sick and for a lot of them... It's just the hand of cards that they were dealt.

You don't know anything about this girl. To say you feel no sympathy for her is insensitive. You might want to think before you start posting comments.

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Yeah her comment is

Yeah her comment is absolutely ridiculous. One of the more ignorant posts I've seen on this site.

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I don't understand how you guys can say Cynthia's comment was ignorant. She was viewing it from the perspective of a friend and/or family member of Gia Allemand. You guys aren't understanding the long term affects of suicide, this is a person Ryan Anderson was probably in love with. What if because of this he chooses to never speak to another female with the intentions of a relationship again? I've had suicidal friends in the past, and normally a trigger that would get them to rethink about what they're planning to do is "Think about how your mom/dad would react if they find out you're dead.", Everyone is willing to make an excuse for people who are suicidal, why is mental illness always the first thing people cling to when a tragedy happens? I understand SOME people have legit mental issues, but why do we always dub people as "Mentally ill" when they do something out of mind? I'm not going to call Gia Allemand "selfish" because I don't know her or know anything about her but you guys can't attack Cynthia because she thought of it in the perspective of a friend or family member. I'm expecting to get negged down to my socks but I honestly don't care, having known someone who has committed suicide and seeing the affects of their family members and their friends make this a touchy subject to me.

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I figured I'd receive a

I figured I'd receive a little negative feedback, but this is silly. Why do people ALWAYS assume they're mentally unstable just because they killed themself? I have a hard time believing someone who was a successful model, was on TV, and was dating an NBA player was mentally unstable. Sounds to me more like couldn't handle the pressure/spotlight anymore.

I speak primarily from personal experience, I've known 3 people that committed suicide. One was due to a high school break up. One was due to losing a leg to diabetes and not wanting to live with only one leg, and another was because his father passed away.

None of the above had anything to do with mental illness, none of the above were necessary, ALL of the above hurt me, and hundreds others deeply and left us wondering "why?"

I myself had a terrible upbringing which I purposely try to block from my memory, I've been through a lot of bad things. Because of this I find it hard to sympathize for someone who did not have it all that bad. It shocks me to think most people kill themselves for minor reasons. I have endured a lot more than most and I not only made it, but I am now a successful businesswoman and a mother. All you really got to do is hang on, people always say "it will get better", well it always does. It may take longer than you prefer but it always gets better.

I have suffered depression, I have suffered from other mental issues(due to my upbringing), and I have suffered through friends & family who have killed themselves. From the outside looking in I can see how you may think my words are harsh, but you really have no idea about any of these topics.

All suicide does is make your friends and family feel sad, leaves them puzzled and wondering "why?", it also causes other feelings such as guilt "why didn't I notice it and do anything to help?". Any and all depression the one whom killed themselves may or may not have had, just transferred over to all of the people closest to them. This is why I call it selfish. Causing everyone around you pain that they have to LIVE with for the rest of their life, while you took the easy way out.

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I see where you're coming

I see where you're coming from, but your original 'blanket statement' of a comment is not a fair assessment in my opinion. Mental illness is a subjective thing, and while you may have suffered from it at some point, neither you or I, will ever have a clue to the severity of certain people's conditions.

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So, a person who has a

So, a person who has a successful career (one that they have to maintain a certain body image for, no less) and who is in the spotlight all the time is supposed to be LESS likely to be at risk for clinical depression? I would think such a person would be just as at risk for committing suicide as anyone.

I'm sorry for the hardships you've endured due to other peoples' decision to commit suicide, but the thing is, sometimes its not exactly a decision. It's an effect of a severe mental issue, and I think you should try to be a tiny bit more understanding of suicidal people.

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@Cynthia While I'm not

@Cynthia

While I'm not disagreeing with a lot of what you've said, your initial comment was not fair to this girl. You didn't know her.

Obviously it doesn't make sense to assume a person is mentally unstable every time they commit suicide, but it's not right to assume that they aren't either. Every situation is different and to lump them all together isn't fair... Period. What you posted was insensitive.

To suggest she just "couldn't handle the spotlight" is once again... Insensitive. Who cares that she dated a NBA player and was a model. Who cares that she was on a show. The fact that she had all of those things and *STILL* committed suicide could also tell you that there could've been major issues she was dealing with mentally that weren't known to a person like you who saw her on tv or just saw her photos.

Due to the fact I don't know this girl or what she had going on, my sympathies do go out to her and all of her friends, family, etc.

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